This is how the birth of Jesus Christ came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be with child through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.
But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, "Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins."
All this took place to fulfill what the Lord had said through the prophet: "The virgin will be with child and will give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel"—which means, "God with us."
When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife. But he had no union with her until she gave birth to a son. And he gave him the name Jesus.
~ Matthew 1:18-25 (NIV)
Friday, December 25, 2009
Monday, December 21, 2009
Author Christmas Memories: Diane Roblin-Lee
This month, we're featuring Christmas memories from your favourite Canadian Christian authors.
As a child of 11 in 1956, I used to trudge along messy sidewalks carrying my heavy, rented accordion. Hoisting it up onto the crowded bus for the long, grey ride from Fort Garry to downtown Winnipeg, then off again and finally up a long, dark stairway to my lessons, was quite a feat. I desperately wanted an accordion of my own, but ministers didn’t make much money in those days.
Mom and Dad and I had recently moved from Ontario and so were far from friends and family. There were just the three of us gathered around our little tree that Christmas morning. Just before we began the excitement of opening our gifts, Dad said, “Diane, could you please go out to the porch and bring in the box I left out there?”
The porch was frigid. Wait! There was a suitcase with a big red bow on it! It couldn’t possibly be an accordion case! But it was heavy.... Dad smiled. “Open it up.”
Inside was a shiny blue accordion with gold accents and gleaming white keys. Ohhhhhh! Dad died in 1995, but whenever I get that old accordion out to play, I am warmed by the memory of his sacrificial love.
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Diane Roblin-Lee's latest title is a legacy workbook called, "To My Family...My Life."
As a child of 11 in 1956, I used to trudge along messy sidewalks carrying my heavy, rented accordion. Hoisting it up onto the crowded bus for the long, grey ride from Fort Garry to downtown Winnipeg, then off again and finally up a long, dark stairway to my lessons, was quite a feat. I desperately wanted an accordion of my own, but ministers didn’t make much money in those days.
Mom and Dad and I had recently moved from Ontario and so were far from friends and family. There were just the three of us gathered around our little tree that Christmas morning. Just before we began the excitement of opening our gifts, Dad said, “Diane, could you please go out to the porch and bring in the box I left out there?”
The porch was frigid. Wait! There was a suitcase with a big red bow on it! It couldn’t possibly be an accordion case! But it was heavy.... Dad smiled. “Open it up.”
Inside was a shiny blue accordion with gold accents and gleaming white keys. Ohhhhhh! Dad died in 1995, but whenever I get that old accordion out to play, I am warmed by the memory of his sacrificial love.
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Diane Roblin-Lee's latest title is a legacy workbook called, "To My Family...My Life."
Friday, December 18, 2009
Sarnia & Grande Prairie Registration Now Open: Just in time for Christmas!
Sarnia "Just the Word"With Precept Ministries
For women, men and teens!
February 20, 2010 (Bethel Church, Sarnia)
Choose 1 of 6 breakout tracks
(Nehemiah, Philippians, Women of the Word, James, Following Jesus, Truth for Youth).
Click here for more details and to register.
Grande Prairie 11th Annual Regional Conference
March 26-27, 2010 (Christian Fellowship Assembly, 11449 - 92 Street, Grande Prairie)
Keynote & Breakout Speaker: Donna Carter
National Office Rep & Breakout Speaker: Michelle Nagle
Click here for more details and to register.
Plus, registration opening January 2010 for:
- Cambridge "Just the Word" with Precept Ministries: April 10, 2010 (Click for details)
- Waterloo Annual Conference: April 23-25, 2010 (Click for details)
Contact Michelle for brochures, bulletin inserts, and powerpoint slides at info@womenalive.org.
Monday, December 14, 2009
Author Christmas Memories: Denyse O'Leary
This month, we're featuring Christmas memories from your favourite Canadian Christian authors.
Time to confess: I’ve never been a fan of Christmas as it is so often “celebrated”. Too often it has meant ... endless baking for the already overfed, added to the intellectual torture of finding gifts for people who have everything they need (and don’t really want what I will finally end up giving them either). And - this is worst of all - vicious fights between revelers who got along while kept apart, but Christmas festivities unfortunately drove them together.
Christ Child, where ARE you? I have so often wondered.
But one oasis has been timeless - the Christmas Eve midnight church service. Anticipating the bells of midnight, we are transported far, far from commercial harassment and social stress. There we worship, and acknowledge once more the impossible redemption made possible - and by a baby too!
Actually, only God would think of sending a baby rather than an invincible army of angels.
I come back home and light all the Advent candles and think, yes, he came to redeem this VERY situation we struggle with. And he will - if we let him.
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Denyse Leary, is co-author with Mario Beauregard of "The Spiritual Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Case for the Existence of the Soul."
Time to confess: I’ve never been a fan of Christmas as it is so often “celebrated”. Too often it has meant ... endless baking for the already overfed, added to the intellectual torture of finding gifts for people who have everything they need (and don’t really want what I will finally end up giving them either). And - this is worst of all - vicious fights between revelers who got along while kept apart, but Christmas festivities unfortunately drove them together.
Christ Child, where ARE you? I have so often wondered.
But one oasis has been timeless - the Christmas Eve midnight church service. Anticipating the bells of midnight, we are transported far, far from commercial harassment and social stress. There we worship, and acknowledge once more the impossible redemption made possible - and by a baby too!
Actually, only God would think of sending a baby rather than an invincible army of angels.
I come back home and light all the Advent candles and think, yes, he came to redeem this VERY situation we struggle with. And he will - if we let him.
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Denyse Leary, is co-author with Mario Beauregard of "The Spiritual Brain: A Neuroscientist’s Case for the Existence of the Soul."
Monday, December 7, 2009
Author Christmas Memories: Sue Augustine
This month, we're featuring Christmas memories from your favourite Canadian Christian authors!
A while ago, my husband and I, with our two grown daughters, made a decision to reduce the hassles of Christmas by celebrating with less commercialism. We’ve always emphasized the true meaning of Christmas – the birth of Christ - but we expected some resistance from our four grandchildren when we explained there’d be less focus on presents under the tree and more emphasis on family time. So we were surprised at their delight when they found out we’d chosen to pool our money and take a vacation together instead of exchanging gifts.
A northern Ontario resort offered us cozy cottages with fireplaces, plus an outdoor rink, indoor pool, tubing hills, horse-drawn sleigh rides and a forest with hiking trails. Mornings were spent congregating in one of the cottages for a big breakfast and some reading, puzzles, artwork or crafts. Then we’d bundle up and have a fun day outdoors playing in the snow, ice skating and tobogganing. Later, we gathered around the fireplace, warmed up with hot chocolate, and got out the board games.
Christmas dinner was relaxed as we made do with plastic bowls and not enough serving spoons! But there was plenty of roast turkey with all the fixings, served with candles and linens brought from home. Later, we were pleased to hear our 8-year old grandson’s answer when a friend asked, “How did you like Christmas without gifts?” AJ replied, “Presents wear out, but memories last forever!”
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Sue Augustine is author of "Turn Your Dreams into Realities", "When Your Past is Hurting Your Present", and her most recent release, "Sanity Secrets for Stressed-Out Women".
A while ago, my husband and I, with our two grown daughters, made a decision to reduce the hassles of Christmas by celebrating with less commercialism. We’ve always emphasized the true meaning of Christmas – the birth of Christ - but we expected some resistance from our four grandchildren when we explained there’d be less focus on presents under the tree and more emphasis on family time. So we were surprised at their delight when they found out we’d chosen to pool our money and take a vacation together instead of exchanging gifts.
A northern Ontario resort offered us cozy cottages with fireplaces, plus an outdoor rink, indoor pool, tubing hills, horse-drawn sleigh rides and a forest with hiking trails. Mornings were spent congregating in one of the cottages for a big breakfast and some reading, puzzles, artwork or crafts. Then we’d bundle up and have a fun day outdoors playing in the snow, ice skating and tobogganing. Later, we gathered around the fireplace, warmed up with hot chocolate, and got out the board games.
Christmas dinner was relaxed as we made do with plastic bowls and not enough serving spoons! But there was plenty of roast turkey with all the fixings, served with candles and linens brought from home. Later, we were pleased to hear our 8-year old grandson’s answer when a friend asked, “How did you like Christmas without gifts?” AJ replied, “Presents wear out, but memories last forever!”
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Sue Augustine is author of "Turn Your Dreams into Realities", "When Your Past is Hurting Your Present", and her most recent release, "Sanity Secrets for Stressed-Out Women".
Monday, November 30, 2009
Author Christmas Memories: Sheila Wray Gregoire
In the month ahead, we'll be featuring Christmas memories from your favourite Canadian Christian authors!
When my daughter Rebecca was almost three we had our last encounter with true Christmas innocence. As the family gathered around the tree, Grandpa handed her a gift. She was thrilled. And then Grandpa tried to give her another package. Looking confused, she protested, “but I already have a present.” She didn’t know more were coming, and she was grateful for what she had.
That was then. This is now. Her younger sister Katie never experienced that innocence because she had a big sister telling her about the haul they were about to get.
To try to combat this we have instituted the “Gold, Frankincense and Myrrh” principle. Each child gets a Gold gift—something they want. And they get the Frankincense gift—something they need. But finally they get the Myrrh gift—something to help them grow spiritually. And that’s it.
And I pray that as they start to think more about the meaning of Christmas, and not the greed of Christmas, we can recapture that look of pure bliss on Rebecca’s face just to be remembered. For God remembered us, and I hope we never forget it.
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Sheila Wray Gregoire is the author of four books, including "To Love, Honor and Vacuum: When you feel more like a maid than a wife and a mother."
When my daughter Rebecca was almost three we had our last encounter with true Christmas innocence. As the family gathered around the tree, Grandpa handed her a gift. She was thrilled. And then Grandpa tried to give her another package. Looking confused, she protested, “but I already have a present.” She didn’t know more were coming, and she was grateful for what she had.
That was then. This is now. Her younger sister Katie never experienced that innocence because she had a big sister telling her about the haul they were about to get.
To try to combat this we have instituted the “Gold, Frankincense and Myrrh” principle. Each child gets a Gold gift—something they want. And they get the Frankincense gift—something they need. But finally they get the Myrrh gift—something to help them grow spiritually. And that’s it.
And I pray that as they start to think more about the meaning of Christmas, and not the greed of Christmas, we can recapture that look of pure bliss on Rebecca’s face just to be remembered. For God remembered us, and I hope we never forget it.
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Sheila Wray Gregoire is the author of four books, including "To Love, Honor and Vacuum: When you feel more like a maid than a wife and a mother."
Monday, November 23, 2009
What do you want out of life?
What a BIG question!What a GREAT question! What do you want out of life?
I recognize that my daily actions answer it whether I’ve consciously considered it or not. My actions and behaviours are what demonstrate what is most important to me. I can SAY that family or God is most important, but if I am spending more time and energy on career or ministry or whatever else steals my focus, I need to remember, “Actions speak louder than words.” A lot louder!
The good news is that once I become aware of the question, I can choose to give a different answer – not only through what I say, but what I do and how I choose to respond. So, what DO I want out of life? I want to invest my God-given talents, gifts, skills and abilities to help other people discover and invest theirs. I believe that God has FILLED us with potential (we are made in the image of God!!) and I am passionate about helping to unleash it…for the glory of God. (Hold me back – I’m getting worked up here!).
I have a favourite quote on my website that really sums it up for me. It’s from Viktor Frankl, a concentration camp survivor (which makes the quote all the more powerful). He says, “Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life…Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s task is unique as is his specific opportunity to implement it.” Now here’s my paraphrase, “You are unique. God made you for a purpose and there’s no one else who can take your place.”
What if you REALLY believed that – from the top of your head to the tip of your toes? What impact would it have on your life?
~ Wendy
Tuesday, November 17, 2009
Are there any tree climbers out there? Luke 19:1-10 records the story of Zaccheus' move up the trunk.Climbing trees did not happen every day in Zaccheus' life but this day it was necessary. Not only could he see Jesus from the height of the tree but his nest made him visible as well. As Jesus looked up and saw him he said, "Zaccheus, hurry and come down, for today I must stay at your house." Thirteen words spoken by the master took only seconds to speak. Fortunately Zaccheus responded to Jesus’ instruction and he entered the discussion. Verse 8 says And Zaccheus stopped and said to the Lord, "Behold, Lord, half of my possessions I will give to the poor, and if I have defrauded anyone of anything, I will give back four times as much."
Notice how his selfish interests came full circle during that short conversation with Jesus. It was worth all the effort of skinned shins for he never lived the same way after that.
You may not have to climb a tree to get into a life changing conversation, for they often happen unexpectedly, but it's good to be on the watch for those words that can change your life.
An old Chinese proverb states: A single conversation across the table from a wise person is worth a month's study of books.
Even though it wasn't table talk for the wee man and Jesus, I'm sure Zaccheus would agree with that proverb.
When have you had a conversation that changed your life? Was it unexpected?
~ Ruth
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
How is God developing your character?
“We have to learn to trust God!” Her tone was emphatic as she challenged me to stop the worry-talk and trust God. My Mother at 82 has served Jesus since her birth! Her life-story is filled with incredible challenges, heartache and strange twists and turns yet the not-destroyable rope weaved throughout her story is her faith - simple, uncomplicated, and child-like.
Through the years, I have often sought her counsel. She has her strong opinions of what should and should not be done, but the bottom line is always the same: “We have to learn to trust God!”
Learning to trust God is a two-way street. Through life, we are learning to trust God but He is also testing us to see if we are able to let go and trust Him, not just half-heartedly but totally and fully!
My worry-points have been many and varied –from the ridiculous to genuine and real concerns. I’ve worried if a parking ticket mailed in at the post office would get lost in the mail and I would be doubly fine or worse yet, get arrested! I’ve walked miles working through stress-filled-worry kind of praying trying to build up my faith and believe that my house would sell in a season when the buyers were scarce and we were strapped into a short selling time. When I found myself in a Montreal hospital in a life-threatening tubal pregnancy and facing immediate surgery, I worried.
It’s only as I’ve looked back on my faith-growing journey that I clearly see, I worried far too much. “Learning to trust God” has been a long process and the one “its-taken-forever to-learn” lesson that has developed my character the most.
One of my Bible heroes is the little boy who gave Jesus his lunch. Five thousand men plus women and children gather to hear Jesus. It’s lunch time – a panic moment – because there is no place to buy the amount of bread they need and it would cost a small fortune to feed such a crowd – money they did not have. Philip is stressed, Andrew gets silly and points to a little boy with a lunch that would at best nourish 3 normal-sized appetites. Jesus takes over.
He asks everyone to sit down, takes the small five barley loaves and two fishes and holds up the problem and resources on hand, to His Father and prays. What a glorious day to witness God at work and see more and more lunch appear to feed every last man, woman and child and then have an astonishing 12 baskets of left-over’s picked up for the community food bank!
How is God developing my character? He is teaching me that worry must not be part of my agenda. I must hold up the problem and the resources I have and give them to Jesus and allow Him to take over and do His work. The result is always astonishing even when I have to wait for it. “Trust in the Lord with all you heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths.” Prov. 3:5
How is God developing your character?
Your friend,
Margaret
Through the years, I have often sought her counsel. She has her strong opinions of what should and should not be done, but the bottom line is always the same: “We have to learn to trust God!”
Learning to trust God is a two-way street. Through life, we are learning to trust God but He is also testing us to see if we are able to let go and trust Him, not just half-heartedly but totally and fully!
My worry-points have been many and varied –from the ridiculous to genuine and real concerns. I’ve worried if a parking ticket mailed in at the post office would get lost in the mail and I would be doubly fine or worse yet, get arrested! I’ve walked miles working through stress-filled-worry kind of praying trying to build up my faith and believe that my house would sell in a season when the buyers were scarce and we were strapped into a short selling time. When I found myself in a Montreal hospital in a life-threatening tubal pregnancy and facing immediate surgery, I worried.
It’s only as I’ve looked back on my faith-growing journey that I clearly see, I worried far too much. “Learning to trust God” has been a long process and the one “its-taken-forever to-learn” lesson that has developed my character the most.
One of my Bible heroes is the little boy who gave Jesus his lunch. Five thousand men plus women and children gather to hear Jesus. It’s lunch time – a panic moment – because there is no place to buy the amount of bread they need and it would cost a small fortune to feed such a crowd – money they did not have. Philip is stressed, Andrew gets silly and points to a little boy with a lunch that would at best nourish 3 normal-sized appetites. Jesus takes over.
He asks everyone to sit down, takes the small five barley loaves and two fishes and holds up the problem and resources on hand, to His Father and prays. What a glorious day to witness God at work and see more and more lunch appear to feed every last man, woman and child and then have an astonishing 12 baskets of left-over’s picked up for the community food bank!
How is God developing my character? He is teaching me that worry must not be part of my agenda. I must hold up the problem and the resources I have and give them to Jesus and allow Him to take over and do His work. The result is always astonishing even when I have to wait for it. “Trust in the Lord with all you heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths.” Prov. 3:5
How is God developing your character?
Your friend,
Margaret
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Obstacle or Opportunity?
I did not want to do it. I did not want to depend on someone else for support. But friends offered to set up a fundraiser day to help with the finances of an upcoming trip to India. Items for the silent auction, an important part of the day, were very slow coming in. Finally I made up my mind I needed to collect something to put on the auction tables. Humbly, I went to stores I frequented throughout our years in Fergus.
I began a conversation with the owners, telling them briefly what Bob and I would be doing... teaching, speaking and providing music for Christian leaders in India, Nepal and Thailand. Their interest piqued and they began to ask questions. A conversation ensued. Before I knew it I had an armload of beautiful gifts to set out on the auction tables.
In spite of the awkwardness I felt at the beginning, it turned out to be a very enriching experience. The week following the event (which included a car rally, pig roast, live music and silent auction), not only did I return to each business place with a thank you but the occasion gave rise to an opportunity to write the local paper commending the generosity of businesses in the area.
Often the obstacles in our lives lead to opportunities that might otherwise not been possible. Can you think of a time when you faced an obstacle head on and through it you encountered an unexpected advantage?
Judges 4:1-23 records an unusual account of opportunity offered to Deborah the prophetess.
Read it and look for the many details that made the occasion possible. Were these coincidences? If not, how can you explain the perfect timing?
To succeed, jump as quickly at opportunities as you do at conclusions. ~ Benjamin Franklin
When have you seen God turn an obstacle into an opportunity in your life? Could there be one right now?
Ruth
I began a conversation with the owners, telling them briefly what Bob and I would be doing... teaching, speaking and providing music for Christian leaders in India, Nepal and Thailand. Their interest piqued and they began to ask questions. A conversation ensued. Before I knew it I had an armload of beautiful gifts to set out on the auction tables.
In spite of the awkwardness I felt at the beginning, it turned out to be a very enriching experience. The week following the event (which included a car rally, pig roast, live music and silent auction), not only did I return to each business place with a thank you but the occasion gave rise to an opportunity to write the local paper commending the generosity of businesses in the area.
Often the obstacles in our lives lead to opportunities that might otherwise not been possible. Can you think of a time when you faced an obstacle head on and through it you encountered an unexpected advantage?
Judges 4:1-23 records an unusual account of opportunity offered to Deborah the prophetess.
Read it and look for the many details that made the occasion possible. Were these coincidences? If not, how can you explain the perfect timing?
To succeed, jump as quickly at opportunities as you do at conclusions. ~ Benjamin Franklin
When have you seen God turn an obstacle into an opportunity in your life? Could there be one right now?
Ruth
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Thanks to you!
Thanks to everyone who joined us in Toronto this past weekend for our Women Alive Toronto Conference. What a day it was!
A strong theme of redemption and hope in the midst of challenging life circumstances was woven through many of our speakers' presentations, as they shared their own stories of God's faithfulness in their lives.
Joanne Goodwin asked whether we are in Babylon longing for 'the better days' of Jerusalem. Do we feel as though we are in exile and don't deserve the harsh realities we are facing? She reminded us that there are certain things in life we can't change: our parents, the loss of a loved one, etc. but we can trust that God is still in control and knows what He is doing in our lives.
What is your 'Babylon'? Don't forget, our 'Babylon' experiences are often the ones that God will use the most to help us comfort and encourage others going through similar experiences.
Look forward to seeing you again, on this side or the next!
Michelle
A strong theme of redemption and hope in the midst of challenging life circumstances was woven through many of our speakers' presentations, as they shared their own stories of God's faithfulness in their lives.
Joanne Goodwin asked whether we are in Babylon longing for 'the better days' of Jerusalem. Do we feel as though we are in exile and don't deserve the harsh realities we are facing? She reminded us that there are certain things in life we can't change: our parents, the loss of a loved one, etc. but we can trust that God is still in control and knows what He is doing in our lives.
What is your 'Babylon'? Don't forget, our 'Babylon' experiences are often the ones that God will use the most to help us comfort and encourage others going through similar experiences.
Look forward to seeing you again, on this side or the next!
Michelle
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
What are your hobbies?
Isn’t it interesting to look back and see how our hobbies can change over the years? I can remember a variety of hobbies, and some make me laugh just thinking about them. Here’s a quick walk down memory lane – maybe some of you will join me. There were the days of collecting things: key chains (I had hundreds), Precious Moments, teddy bears (I’m not referring to a childhood collection here – a grown woman with a house full of teddy bears), and stickers (scratch & sniff were my personal favourite). The collecting phase moved into the craft phase: macramé (does anyone still do this?), rug hooking, crocheting, hand-painted clothing (which turned into a business venture) and the still popular scrap booking to name a few.
As I take the time to reflect back, I am entertained by the positive associations I have with each of them. They bring back some really fond memories of various seasons in my life…I’m actually sitting here smiling. And I’m realizing the important role that hobbies can play in our lives: they can serve as a creative outlet; they are often social activities (or can be); they are a way to relax and let go of the everyday stresses of life. But aren’t they often one of the first things to get “bumped” when life gets busy? Not any more. I am committing to setting aside more time for hobbies – for crafts, for creativity, for time with friends and family.
What about you? What are your hobbies? What role do they play in your life?
I’d love to hear from you!
Wendy
As I take the time to reflect back, I am entertained by the positive associations I have with each of them. They bring back some really fond memories of various seasons in my life…I’m actually sitting here smiling. And I’m realizing the important role that hobbies can play in our lives: they can serve as a creative outlet; they are often social activities (or can be); they are a way to relax and let go of the everyday stresses of life. But aren’t they often one of the first things to get “bumped” when life gets busy? Not any more. I am committing to setting aside more time for hobbies – for crafts, for creativity, for time with friends and family.
What about you? What are your hobbies? What role do they play in your life?
I’d love to hear from you!
Wendy
Tuesday, October 6, 2009
What you wish you had known...
In one week, I will turn 26; just seven days left of being 25. It's been an interesting year to say the least and I'm definitely looking forward to what God has in store for my 26th year!
I love to journal to keep track of my prayers and how God is at work in my life. I can't help but wonder what things I will look back on and see how I could have done them differently. Will the things that seem 'major' now be inconsequential a year from now? Five years from now? And will the 'minor' details prove to bear fruit in more significant ways as time goes on?
If you could go back to your 25-year-old self, what would you say? What do you wish you had known at this age? Or if you're still in your early twenties, what kind of advice would you find helpful?
I'd love to hear from you!
Michelle
I love to journal to keep track of my prayers and how God is at work in my life. I can't help but wonder what things I will look back on and see how I could have done them differently. Will the things that seem 'major' now be inconsequential a year from now? Five years from now? And will the 'minor' details prove to bear fruit in more significant ways as time goes on?
If you could go back to your 25-year-old self, what would you say? What do you wish you had known at this age? Or if you're still in your early twenties, what kind of advice would you find helpful?
I'd love to hear from you!
Michelle
Monday, September 28, 2009
What are 2 of your best personality qualities?
I find it interesting in my coaching practice that if I ask a client to list their flaws or things they don’t like about themselves, they can rhyme off a list without delay. However, when I ask them to list their strengths or what they DO like about themselves, there is often hesitation (or a very short list!). I am saddened by the fact that we often associate identifying our strengths with conceit or bragging. And so I’d like to point out that knowing you are a good cook is no different than knowing you have brown eyes – it’s just a fact. What makes it bragging is when we “compare” with others and consider ourselves better than someone else. (OK…I’ll get down off my soapbox now :) )
Back to the question at hand…what are two of my best personal qualities?
What pops up for me right now is determination and creativity. From a young age I learned that if I really wanted something (not in a material sense) and I stuck with it and tried different approaches, I could figure out a way to make it happen. I still think like that today. “Where there’s a will, there’s a way!” Likely, this is where my creativity comes into play. Solutions to challenges are rarely “in the box” but instead often require looking at things in new and different ways.
My challenge today? Getting as many of you as possible to share YOUR best qualities right here on this blog.
My solution? Hmmmm…any ideas?
Back to the question at hand…what are two of my best personal qualities?
What pops up for me right now is determination and creativity. From a young age I learned that if I really wanted something (not in a material sense) and I stuck with it and tried different approaches, I could figure out a way to make it happen. I still think like that today. “Where there’s a will, there’s a way!” Likely, this is where my creativity comes into play. Solutions to challenges are rarely “in the box” but instead often require looking at things in new and different ways.
My challenge today? Getting as many of you as possible to share YOUR best qualities right here on this blog.
My solution? Hmmmm…any ideas?
Monday, September 21, 2009
How do I personally define success?
As a woman and leader, how do I personally define success?
I often take a 30,000 foot view on my life and realize that in my lifetime, I have been about 6 different women. I am totally different today than when I was at 16, 24, 39, 45, 50 and 60.
We all come fresh from the hand of God with a specific purpose and plan. Buried deep within us are gifts and talents that need to be discovered, used, and developed. The ultimate goal is to function within our giftings to bring the highest good and greatest glory to God.
Because we all have issues, insecurities, past baggage and fears, the discovery and development of our gifts and gift-mixes is a long and sometimes painful process.
My own teen years of deep and crippling insecurity and fear of people was a labor-some inner process to bring me to the place of public leadership today. For years, I was locked in a self-inflicted prison that became a place of comfort and strange security. Being drawn out of that fear-filled and personal debilitating place could only happen by yielding in often baby-steps to the call of the Spirit.
The steps I followed are well identified in Robert Clinton’s book: “The Making of a Leader”:
Awareness of a gift
Discovery of a gift
Increased use of a gift
Effectiveness in using that gift
Discovery of other gifts
Identification of gift-mixes
Development of gift-mixes.
Success is not measured by what I can do, but by what God and I are doing together to draw out latent gifts and abilities that He has placed within me. God will allow and bring into our lives all sorts of circumstances, tough positions and often challenging people. I am called to yield with His workings, learn and grow.
If I honor God in the processes, He will honor me. Haggai 2:20-23 gives this assuring, rock-solid word: “I will honor you. I will treat you like a signet ring on my finger for I have specially chosen you. I, the Lord Almighty, have spoken.”
What stage best describes where you are at in using your gifts for God?
Your friend,
Margaret
I often take a 30,000 foot view on my life and realize that in my lifetime, I have been about 6 different women. I am totally different today than when I was at 16, 24, 39, 45, 50 and 60.
We all come fresh from the hand of God with a specific purpose and plan. Buried deep within us are gifts and talents that need to be discovered, used, and developed. The ultimate goal is to function within our giftings to bring the highest good and greatest glory to God.
Because we all have issues, insecurities, past baggage and fears, the discovery and development of our gifts and gift-mixes is a long and sometimes painful process.
My own teen years of deep and crippling insecurity and fear of people was a labor-some inner process to bring me to the place of public leadership today. For years, I was locked in a self-inflicted prison that became a place of comfort and strange security. Being drawn out of that fear-filled and personal debilitating place could only happen by yielding in often baby-steps to the call of the Spirit.
The steps I followed are well identified in Robert Clinton’s book: “The Making of a Leader”:
Awareness of a gift
Discovery of a gift
Increased use of a gift
Effectiveness in using that gift
Discovery of other gifts
Identification of gift-mixes
Development of gift-mixes.
Success is not measured by what I can do, but by what God and I are doing together to draw out latent gifts and abilities that He has placed within me. God will allow and bring into our lives all sorts of circumstances, tough positions and often challenging people. I am called to yield with His workings, learn and grow.
If I honor God in the processes, He will honor me. Haggai 2:20-23 gives this assuring, rock-solid word: “I will honor you. I will treat you like a signet ring on my finger for I have specially chosen you. I, the Lord Almighty, have spoken.”
What stage best describes where you are at in using your gifts for God?
Your friend,
Margaret
Monday, September 14, 2009
How do you define success? (Part 1)
Working in Women Alive, I have been frequently asked, “So, what is your annual budget?” or “How many women are in your database?” or “How many attended your conferences last year?” These are common questions asked to determine success.
While strategic plans, goals and stats are important, numbers are only a small part of what determines success. In a ministry such as Women Alive, the impact of changed lives cannot be fully measured in this lifetime and certainly not by numbers.
How do you define success?
~ Margaret
Continued next week...
While strategic plans, goals and stats are important, numbers are only a small part of what determines success. In a ministry such as Women Alive, the impact of changed lives cannot be fully measured in this lifetime and certainly not by numbers.
How do you define success?
~ Margaret
Continued next week...
Monday, September 7, 2009
Where are you, God?
"I didn’t want it to end up like this," she cried into the phone. "I'm so alone. Life is not worth living."
Suffering from a mental illness, her life had become too complicated. Nothing made sense. How could there be purpose if this is all there is? If this is the way it ends?
I wonder if any of you have ever had those identical feelings of doubt and confusion. The roadblocks we talked about earlier often give rise to mental uncertainty. From the human perspective, bleakness hovers.
In Mark 15: 16-25 we read about what the disciples experienced during Jesus' last day before he died. Their friend, mentor and guide was tried in a Roman court and crucified. All potential hope of a better life buried with the saviour. Or so they thought.
Did they think right?
Try to imagine some of the thoughts that might have gone through the disciples minds?
Did they anticipate life taking this sharp turn? How would you feel if you had been there?
All the confusion that clouded their thinking did not make sense. But again, when bleakness hovers, where is God? In God's big picture, what happened on the day Christ hung on the cross?
Think of a time in your life when you could not understand (maybe right now) what good could possibly come from all the confusion in your life. Have you been able to look back and discover God at work?
Consider this when you face life's confusing times:
"God's silence is in no way indicative of His inactivity or involvement in our lives. He may be silent but He is not still." ~ Dr. Charles Stanley
I'd love to hear your thoughts!
Ruth
Wednesday, September 2, 2009
Roadblocks and Waiting
Did I hear correctly? The words that filtered through my mind, but did not register, came from my husband who told me that he no longer had a job. It couldn't be. Thirty years of climbing the business ladder of success could not possibly be at an end. With four children -- one in university, one in high school, one in public school, and one in diapers -- there needed to be a pay cheque. It would not come from me, for I enjoyed the “stay at home mom” role.
"When does this take effect?" I cautiously asked.
"You didn’t hear me, did you? I do not have a job." My temporary hearing loss protected me momentarily from the shock of such unexpected news.
Suddenly, I recalled my prayer of just days earlier asking God to free Bob up just a little (not a lot), as he frequently travelled. As General Manager of the company, he worked long hours.
Without warning, the next day, Monday, Bob ate breakfast with all of us. Then, lunch with me and supper with all of us again. The next day repeated that Monday and each day following for several months.
Roadblocks...we all have them at some time in our life. Life as we once enjoyed comes to an abrupt halt, leaving us with a form of whiplash. The muscles, sinews and ligaments in our head have been stretched and torn. Thinking becomes a mixture of doubt, confusion and fear causing more wear and tear on an already fragile mind.
For the Coghill family, this roadblock forced us to make some decisions we had not intended to make. Well-established in Windsor at the time, we had just finished renovations and added a beautiful in-ground pool to our yard. Our eldest son studied at the University of Windsor with a final year ahead. We had every reason to stay except... no job.
Look at the verses God directed me to at the beginning of that year: Psalm 27:1 & 14, "The Lord is my light and my salvation. Whom shall I fear? The Lord is the strength of my life. Of whom shall I be afraid? Wait on the Lord be of good courage and He shall strengthen thy heart. Wait, I say on the Lord." God provided through His word the hope that He had not forsaken us. He wants to do the same for you.
Naomi portrays a woman whose life, for a number of years, contained many roadblocks. Famine, a major move, the death of her husband, then within ten years the death of her two sons. Her provision, security and identity threatened, she battled many of the questions all of us do when confronted with the STOP sign. Where to turn? Where to go? Read in Ruth 1: 1-18. Feeling forsaken by God, these roadblocks forced her to make choices.
Can you think of any positive outcome from roadblocks? What new life awaited Naomi because of those challenges?
Let me know what roadblocks you are facing. What are you learning through them? Let's talk.
Friday, August 28, 2009
ie girl Early Bird ends Monday, Aug. 31
If you're a mom, grandma, or mentor to teen girls, you don't want to miss our ie girl Eastern Canada Weekend coming November 13-14, 2009 to Brantford, Ontario.Register Today - Early Bird Deadline is August 31st. ($65 each, includes lunch) Plus, with our Group Special, you can register 10, get the 11th free.
Last year's event sold out, don't miss out!
Check out http://www.iegirl.ca/ for more details. Or, you can give me a call at 1.800.387.4753.
See you there!
Michelle
Friday, August 21, 2009
Consequences of Life's Mistakes
Mistakes are inevitable. Life is a teacher. Mistakes are lessons that develop and change us.
My mistakes have covered a wide-range of choices and experiences from speeding on a residential street late at night because I was too tired to care (and, as a consequence, getting a ticket ) to making 30 apple pies in one day and working myself into a very horrible snap-at-everyone mood because I foolishly took on too much.
Other mistakes have been more costly. Trusting people, one of the key characteristics in my personality type, has very rich rewards as well as sorry consequences. Experiencing betrayal from what was a trusted relationship makes the heart pain and leaves one with the understanding that trust is strong like steel, unable to be easily broken, and it can also be as thin as ice in a post-Winter season. Once broken, it is almost never repairable.
A recurring mistake that has been part of my developing story is what Zachariah experienced when an angel told him that his wife, Elizabeth, who was aged and barren would give birth to a son. Zachariah, a priest, did not believe the message and as a consequence his capability to speak was taken away until the child, John, was born.
I too have battled faith and doubt when the circumstances in my life seemed, at the time, impossible for even God to answer and all I saw was a dark and miserable future. Or, when amazing opportunities came as open doors, yet I struggled with self-doubt and my perceived lack of ability to meet the responsibilities -- inwardly fighting to pull back, yet that divine call like a woman giving birth, was there pushing me to walk through the open door into something new and greater.
The consequences have been a long journey in releasing the draining emotional toll of belief and doubt, hope and fear, asking yet going into full-blown worry, and then finally in surrender reaching out with my two arms to my all-caring, all-giving Father and saying “Take it, I surrender again.”
I have learned about God’s redeeming grace in my lifetime. He has worked to provide answers, has never disappointed me and has remained consistently faithful. He had has His own way of showing me that I acted like a foolish child who put herself through an emotional wringer when it wasn’t necessary. He is in charge, in control and working. I continue to need to trust Him.
What mistakes have you learned from in your life?
Your friend,
Margaret
My mistakes have covered a wide-range of choices and experiences from speeding on a residential street late at night because I was too tired to care (and, as a consequence, getting a ticket ) to making 30 apple pies in one day and working myself into a very horrible snap-at-everyone mood because I foolishly took on too much.
Other mistakes have been more costly. Trusting people, one of the key characteristics in my personality type, has very rich rewards as well as sorry consequences. Experiencing betrayal from what was a trusted relationship makes the heart pain and leaves one with the understanding that trust is strong like steel, unable to be easily broken, and it can also be as thin as ice in a post-Winter season. Once broken, it is almost never repairable.
A recurring mistake that has been part of my developing story is what Zachariah experienced when an angel told him that his wife, Elizabeth, who was aged and barren would give birth to a son. Zachariah, a priest, did not believe the message and as a consequence his capability to speak was taken away until the child, John, was born.
I too have battled faith and doubt when the circumstances in my life seemed, at the time, impossible for even God to answer and all I saw was a dark and miserable future. Or, when amazing opportunities came as open doors, yet I struggled with self-doubt and my perceived lack of ability to meet the responsibilities -- inwardly fighting to pull back, yet that divine call like a woman giving birth, was there pushing me to walk through the open door into something new and greater.
The consequences have been a long journey in releasing the draining emotional toll of belief and doubt, hope and fear, asking yet going into full-blown worry, and then finally in surrender reaching out with my two arms to my all-caring, all-giving Father and saying “Take it, I surrender again.”
I have learned about God’s redeeming grace in my lifetime. He has worked to provide answers, has never disappointed me and has remained consistently faithful. He had has His own way of showing me that I acted like a foolish child who put herself through an emotional wringer when it wasn’t necessary. He is in charge, in control and working. I continue to need to trust Him.
What mistakes have you learned from in your life?
Your friend,
Margaret
Friday, August 14, 2009
Fall Registration Open
It's that time of year! Our fall event registration is now open - register today to take advantage of our early bird discounts.
Register online at www.womenalive.org or by phone: 1-800-387-4753.
Don't miss our "Real Life, Real Purpose, Real Joy" conferences this fall:
August 29, 2009 - Elliot Lake
October 24, 2009 -Toronto (Early Bird Deadline: Sept. 18th)
November 7, 2009 - Montreal
November 13-14, 2009 - ie girl Eastern Canada Weekend, Brantford for girls 12 - 20, moms & mentors (Early Bird Deadline: Aug. 31st)
PLUS Spring dates including Western Canada locations being announced soon!
And, as always, if you have any questions, don't hesitate to let me know!
See you soon,
Michelle
Register online at www.womenalive.org or by phone: 1-800-387-4753.
Don't miss our "Real Life, Real Purpose, Real Joy" conferences this fall:
August 29, 2009 - Elliot Lake
October 24, 2009 -Toronto (Early Bird Deadline: Sept. 18th)
November 7, 2009 - Montreal
November 13-14, 2009 - ie girl Eastern Canada Weekend, Brantford for girls 12 - 20, moms & mentors (Early Bird Deadline: Aug. 31st)
PLUS Spring dates including Western Canada locations being announced soon!
And, as always, if you have any questions, don't hesitate to let me know!
See you soon,
Michelle
Monday, July 27, 2009
So much to do; so little time
So much to do—so little time...messages to prepare, CDs to produce, articles and study guides to write.
I had no other choice. I donned my helmet, kicked back the stand, jumped on my bicycle and rode out to the dam.
On the way, the smell of wild phlox and cedars filled my nostrils. To be honest, another country stench competed with the freshness of the flowers, threatening to spoil the beauty surrounding the trail. It did not succeed.
After twenty-five minutes of peddling, I arrived at the waters' edge of Belwood Lake. Quickly I forgot the long 'list' back home and drank in the tranquility.
Beside the still waters, I saw a Canada goose lazily floating upstream. I liked his approach to the day.
"In quietness and in confidence shall be your strength" (Isaiah 30:15) came to mind, encouraging me in my 'slow down.'
I needed the change of scenery and routine and came back with a new outlook on the long 'to do' list.
Yours will be different from mine but we all have 'to do' lists. Where could you go to renew your vision and refresh your spirit? It may be just another room in your home.
What could you do to enhance your environment? Simply putting a bouquet of flowers where you spend a lot of time might spur you on to creativity.
I'd love to hear your thoughts!
Ruth
I had no other choice. I donned my helmet, kicked back the stand, jumped on my bicycle and rode out to the dam.
On the way, the smell of wild phlox and cedars filled my nostrils. To be honest, another country stench competed with the freshness of the flowers, threatening to spoil the beauty surrounding the trail. It did not succeed.
After twenty-five minutes of peddling, I arrived at the waters' edge of Belwood Lake. Quickly I forgot the long 'list' back home and drank in the tranquility.
Beside the still waters, I saw a Canada goose lazily floating upstream. I liked his approach to the day.
"In quietness and in confidence shall be your strength" (Isaiah 30:15) came to mind, encouraging me in my 'slow down.'
I needed the change of scenery and routine and came back with a new outlook on the long 'to do' list.
Yours will be different from mine but we all have 'to do' lists. Where could you go to renew your vision and refresh your spirit? It may be just another room in your home.
What could you do to enhance your environment? Simply putting a bouquet of flowers where you spend a lot of time might spur you on to creativity.
I'd love to hear your thoughts!
Ruth
Monday, July 20, 2009
Three Powerful Dynamics - Part 2
Writers were introduced throughout the conference and had the opportunity to describe awards they had won and there were times set aside for writers to read from their works -perhaps a novel, a children’s book, prose or poetry. You should have heard the celebration for each contributor –enthusiastic applause filled the auditorium. And afterward, they were surrounded by many with sincere words and wishes for success.
Sitting together at our last dinner, we were bursting with energetic motivation that was generated throughout the weekend by the generous portions of enthusiasm along with wholehearted celebration.
Encouragement, Celebration, Motivation. Thinking of these three powerful dynamics, I find myself looking at my own life. Have I been given such wonderful gifts by others? More important though, have I contributed these gifts generously to others? What about you? Perhaps we should each make a list of answers to these two questions. Would you like to share your answers with me?
Eileen
Sitting together at our last dinner, we were bursting with energetic motivation that was generated throughout the weekend by the generous portions of enthusiasm along with wholehearted celebration.
Encouragement, Celebration, Motivation. Thinking of these three powerful dynamics, I find myself looking at my own life. Have I been given such wonderful gifts by others? More important though, have I contributed these gifts generously to others? What about you? Perhaps we should each make a list of answers to these two questions. Would you like to share your answers with me?
Eileen
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Three Powerful Dynamics
A few weeks ago I attended a writer’s conference. I met a lot of new people, both women and men of every age-group. They came from across Canada as well as from the US. I loved getting to know them, asking who they were, where they from and how they became interested in writing. I discovered they represented a variety of professions and careers, and not too many of them actually write for a living. It was interesting to hear stories of how they were inspired to begin.
Although we were strangers when we arrived, as the weekend progressed we became like family. We were there with one common interest - we had a bent for writing. We were all at different stages - some beginners, there to study the craft; others further advanced, seeking direction from the instructors regarding how to write for specific areas, such as devotional columns or novels. Some came with book proposals, ready to meet with publishers. Some, like me, were there to enhance their writing skills and to promote my new book which will be published by Castle Quay Books* by early September.
I noticed three powerful dynamics that marked the entire conference. Encouragement overflowed from one delegate to another. There was never a negative word – each one expressed appreciation for the efforts and work of others. No one asked, “Don’t you think that’s a bit too difficult for you?” or “Do you have the background to accomplish your goal?” or “Aren’t you too young (or too old)?”
It was support and encouragement all the way. How have you benefited from the encouragement of others? How do you show encouragement?
We'll look at two other dynamics next time,
Eileen
Although we were strangers when we arrived, as the weekend progressed we became like family. We were there with one common interest - we had a bent for writing. We were all at different stages - some beginners, there to study the craft; others further advanced, seeking direction from the instructors regarding how to write for specific areas, such as devotional columns or novels. Some came with book proposals, ready to meet with publishers. Some, like me, were there to enhance their writing skills and to promote my new book which will be published by Castle Quay Books* by early September.
I noticed three powerful dynamics that marked the entire conference. Encouragement overflowed from one delegate to another. There was never a negative word – each one expressed appreciation for the efforts and work of others. No one asked, “Don’t you think that’s a bit too difficult for you?” or “Do you have the background to accomplish your goal?” or “Aren’t you too young (or too old)?”
It was support and encouragement all the way. How have you benefited from the encouragement of others? How do you show encouragement?
We'll look at two other dynamics next time,
Eileen
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Summertime!
You'll notice that we've taken a little bit of a break from the blog to enjoy summertime! We'll be back very soon with more talk around the coffee table.
In the meantime, be sure to check out our fall events and register at www.womenalive.org:
In the meantime, be sure to check out our fall events and register at www.womenalive.org:
- Elliot Lake Women & Teen Girls' Simultaneous Conferences - August 29, 2009
- Women Alive Toronto Conference - October 24, 2009
- Just the Word Montreal - November 7, 2009
- ie girl Eastern Canada Weekend - November 13-14, 2009 (Early bird registration open now!)
See you soon!
Michelle
Monday, June 15, 2009
So you want to be a...Speaker? Part 2
This is Part 2 of a 2-Part Blog in our "So you want to be a..." Career Series.
So You Want to be a...Speaker?
Tips #6 - 10:
6. Your presentation begins as soon you enter the room. People know you are the speaker and your presence and body language introduces you as the speaker more than the actual introduction.
7. When you step up to the lectern or podium – be confident and be yourself! Make eye contact, smile, warm up to the audience. Remember they want to hear from you but you have to win them over and make them feel that they can trust you. Your opening is critical in building audience connection and trust.
8. Learning to ‘read’ an audience is like developing an 8th sense – it is a learning process. From the vantage of a platform you can tell who is with you, who is agreeing, who is bored, and who is ‘on vacation’ mentally. You notice those looking at their watches, or seriously taking notes. Focus on those who are intently listening and keep making eye contact with them. These listeners will draw you out.
9. Wear appropriate clothing – usually business or business casual – and stay away from dangling earrings, low cut blouses and clanging brackets. These draw attention and take away from the listener’s focus.
10. Be a reader. Sometimes women feel that their shared story will be their message. A personal life story will only take you so far. What you are learning beyond the life story will take you further into public speaking. All leaders are readers. Public speakers are leaders. Read to expand yourself and especially read books written by the “greats”. Dig deep into the spiritual well of A.W. Tozer, Andrew Murray, Oswald Chambers, Elizabeth Elliot and other men/women of that caliber.
What have you learned from public speaking? Share your thoughts and tips with us!
7. When you step up to the lectern or podium – be confident and be yourself! Make eye contact, smile, warm up to the audience. Remember they want to hear from you but you have to win them over and make them feel that they can trust you. Your opening is critical in building audience connection and trust.
8. Learning to ‘read’ an audience is like developing an 8th sense – it is a learning process. From the vantage of a platform you can tell who is with you, who is agreeing, who is bored, and who is ‘on vacation’ mentally. You notice those looking at their watches, or seriously taking notes. Focus on those who are intently listening and keep making eye contact with them. These listeners will draw you out.
9. Wear appropriate clothing – usually business or business casual – and stay away from dangling earrings, low cut blouses and clanging brackets. These draw attention and take away from the listener’s focus.
10. Be a reader. Sometimes women feel that their shared story will be their message. A personal life story will only take you so far. What you are learning beyond the life story will take you further into public speaking. All leaders are readers. Public speakers are leaders. Read to expand yourself and especially read books written by the “greats”. Dig deep into the spiritual well of A.W. Tozer, Andrew Murray, Oswald Chambers, Elizabeth Elliot and other men/women of that caliber.
What have you learned from public speaking? Share your thoughts and tips with us!
Your friend,
Margaret
Monday, June 8, 2009
So you want to be a...Speaker?
So you want to be a speaker?
Is there something within you wanting to become a public speaker? Do you feel you have a pertinent message for women today? Do you watch public speakers and say to yourself “I think I could do that”?
When I was a teen girl, the thought of public speaking terrified me. On the list of terrifying experiences, public speaking is at the top! As a shy, introverted young woman, I never dreamed that the desire, call or gift to speak publicly was lodged within me. Yet in time, God used circumstances, situations, and people to draw this gift out.
Sometimes the gift of public speaking is naturally expressed even in childhood but for most others, it is a gift buried deep within waiting to be released and needing the opportunity.
My development in this area came the hard way because the biggest hurdle I had to overcome was my fear of people. Learning to speak publicly was yet another development process.
Here are some things I’ve learned about public speaking:
1. Be well prepared. Learn how to prepare a message/talk that has content, humor, stories and life applications. In every presentation there should be 4 legs – Information, entertainment, passion and a call to action.
2. Ensure that there is a good flow in your material because you are taking your hearers on a journey. Review your material so that you are not rambling or disjointed in the flow. Have a strong beginning and a strong ending. Bookend your presentation.
3. Listeners today have short attention spans so you must have variety not only in material but in tone and pause points. Listeners come from the perspective of “what’s in it for me.” So the focus is on giving to them. Too much material can be overwhelming….even in public speaking, ‘less is more’.
4. Ensure that you have enough material to fill your allotted time. Respect the time given to you.
5. Don’t use too many ‘big’ words – be ordinary in your use of grammar. Remember the point is to be clearly understood. Stay away from “Uh…Uhhh…Ummmm” and comments such as : “I haven’t really prepared anything…” Women want content or they feel that their time has been wasted.
Is there something within you wanting to become a public speaker? Do you feel you have a pertinent message for women today? Do you watch public speakers and say to yourself “I think I could do that”?
When I was a teen girl, the thought of public speaking terrified me. On the list of terrifying experiences, public speaking is at the top! As a shy, introverted young woman, I never dreamed that the desire, call or gift to speak publicly was lodged within me. Yet in time, God used circumstances, situations, and people to draw this gift out.
Sometimes the gift of public speaking is naturally expressed even in childhood but for most others, it is a gift buried deep within waiting to be released and needing the opportunity.
My development in this area came the hard way because the biggest hurdle I had to overcome was my fear of people. Learning to speak publicly was yet another development process.
Here are some things I’ve learned about public speaking:
1. Be well prepared. Learn how to prepare a message/talk that has content, humor, stories and life applications. In every presentation there should be 4 legs – Information, entertainment, passion and a call to action.
2. Ensure that there is a good flow in your material because you are taking your hearers on a journey. Review your material so that you are not rambling or disjointed in the flow. Have a strong beginning and a strong ending. Bookend your presentation.
3. Listeners today have short attention spans so you must have variety not only in material but in tone and pause points. Listeners come from the perspective of “what’s in it for me.” So the focus is on giving to them. Too much material can be overwhelming….even in public speaking, ‘less is more’.
4. Ensure that you have enough material to fill your allotted time. Respect the time given to you.
5. Don’t use too many ‘big’ words – be ordinary in your use of grammar. Remember the point is to be clearly understood. Stay away from “Uh…Uhhh…Ummmm” and comments such as : “I haven’t really prepared anything…” Women want content or they feel that their time has been wasted.
This is Part 1 of a 2-Part Blog in our "So you want to be a..." Career Series.
Thursday, May 28, 2009
A Cheerful Heart is Good Medicine!
“A cheerful look brings joy to the heart and good news gives health to the bones." Proverbs 15:30
King Solomon who was considered the wisest man who ever lived, gave this simple, yet powerful lesson - the importance of a smile and an optimistic word. As you move throughout your day, working, walking, traveling, attending a conference or whatever, do you take time to look at the countenances of the people you meet. You’ll notice a variety of expressions. Sometimes a scowl or a frown, maybe a look of anxiety and worry. You may meet expressions of deep concentration, anger or total absentmindedness.
These expressions don’t do too much for us, but what about that special face, with eyes shining and mouth smiling at us? What’s your first reaction - to smile back of course. Suddenly your whole heart is cheered up. I often feel I want to talk to that happy person. I think we should ask God to remind us to put a smile on our faces so we can bring joy to the heart of others. There is a young woman on the staff at Women Alive who glows with the light of Jesus. She always greets visitors with a cheerful look, and Solomon was right – we always leave with a heart full of joy.
What about good news and an optimistic report? A few weeks ago some friends visited me for a few days at my cottage. We had some work to do to prepare it for the summer, like putting up screens, washing windows, cleaning cupboards, along with other things. But the hours of work flew by and we enjoyed wonderful hours of sharing about what God is doing in our lives, reading special scripture passages and praying together. We all felt invigorated and energized by our time together – good news and an optimistic outlook gave ‘health to our bones.’
Who are the people in your life that are contributing joy to your heart and health to your bones? They are the ones you should stick to.
I’d love to hear how this is happening to you or how you are blessing others in this way. Please send me your thoughts.
Until next time,
Eileen
King Solomon who was considered the wisest man who ever lived, gave this simple, yet powerful lesson - the importance of a smile and an optimistic word. As you move throughout your day, working, walking, traveling, attending a conference or whatever, do you take time to look at the countenances of the people you meet. You’ll notice a variety of expressions. Sometimes a scowl or a frown, maybe a look of anxiety and worry. You may meet expressions of deep concentration, anger or total absentmindedness.
These expressions don’t do too much for us, but what about that special face, with eyes shining and mouth smiling at us? What’s your first reaction - to smile back of course. Suddenly your whole heart is cheered up. I often feel I want to talk to that happy person. I think we should ask God to remind us to put a smile on our faces so we can bring joy to the heart of others. There is a young woman on the staff at Women Alive who glows with the light of Jesus. She always greets visitors with a cheerful look, and Solomon was right – we always leave with a heart full of joy.
What about good news and an optimistic report? A few weeks ago some friends visited me for a few days at my cottage. We had some work to do to prepare it for the summer, like putting up screens, washing windows, cleaning cupboards, along with other things. But the hours of work flew by and we enjoyed wonderful hours of sharing about what God is doing in our lives, reading special scripture passages and praying together. We all felt invigorated and energized by our time together – good news and an optimistic outlook gave ‘health to our bones.’
Who are the people in your life that are contributing joy to your heart and health to your bones? They are the ones you should stick to.
I’d love to hear how this is happening to you or how you are blessing others in this way. Please send me your thoughts.
Until next time,
Eileen
Monday, May 25, 2009
How do you define 'health'?
When you hear the word health, what comes to mind? Absence of illness? Size or weight? Exercise? Diet?
The word health is so broad and big - almost abstract. What seems or feels “healthy” to one person might be very different to someone else’s picture of health.
Why is this significant? (and why I am I asking so many questions?!) The significance is that health is something that ALL of us want. We want to be free of pain, to have energy, to be able to carry out daily tasks with ease and so on. But sadly, our “vagueness” around what health looks like to us individually can actually prevent us from getting there (wherever “there” is!).
I struggled with this very issue in January of this year. With a milestone birthday approaching in the Spring, I had a personal goal to be “in the best shape of my adult life” by my birthday. The only problem was - I didn’t know how to turn that goal into a plan. My goal was abstract - and without having a clear idea of where I wanted to go, how could I expect to get there?
The fact is that we cannot do that which we cannot imagine. We need a clear picture of our destination in order to plan the steps to get there. Imagine a building that did not first have a blueprint. How would the builder know where to begin? A well thought out plan is half the battle.
So, I’m wondering...What does healthy living look like to you? I’d love to hear!
The word health is so broad and big - almost abstract. What seems or feels “healthy” to one person might be very different to someone else’s picture of health.
Why is this significant? (and why I am I asking so many questions?!) The significance is that health is something that ALL of us want. We want to be free of pain, to have energy, to be able to carry out daily tasks with ease and so on. But sadly, our “vagueness” around what health looks like to us individually can actually prevent us from getting there (wherever “there” is!).
I struggled with this very issue in January of this year. With a milestone birthday approaching in the Spring, I had a personal goal to be “in the best shape of my adult life” by my birthday. The only problem was - I didn’t know how to turn that goal into a plan. My goal was abstract - and without having a clear idea of where I wanted to go, how could I expect to get there?
The fact is that we cannot do that which we cannot imagine. We need a clear picture of our destination in order to plan the steps to get there. Imagine a building that did not first have a blueprint. How would the builder know where to begin? A well thought out plan is half the battle.
So, I’m wondering...What does healthy living look like to you? I’d love to hear!
Thursday, May 21, 2009
May 7th, 2009:
I just returned from a bike ride, my first for this season- a forty minute mini vacation along the trail in our area. Thinking pleasant thoughts while cycling cleared my mind and energized my spirit.
In the Old Testament such care was given to each part of the tabernacle, where God met His people. Although God no longer dwells in the Old building, I've learned the value of looking after my temple, His new dwelling place.
1 Corinthians 6:19 "Or didn't you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit?" The Message
As women we often feel selfish when we spend time on our own recreation and hobbies.
That's not a Scriptural teaching for Corinthians goes on to say that we are bought with a price, God owns all of us. Let's look after His possession.
What are you doing this spring that will keep you healthy physically, spiritually and mentally? I'd love to hear from you.
Suggestion: Dividing your day into three parts- morning, afternoon and evening is one way to know how you are doing looking after yourself.
You need one of those parts each day for rest and recreation. For instance, if you work at night, you'll need either morning or afternoon for rest and recreation.
Sometimes our schedules have two or three days where all three parts are booked up. In that event, we need a whole day or as many parts as we've missed.
As well, each day I like to ask myself what I've done in each category- body, mind and spirit.
Let's share some ideas.
I just returned from a bike ride, my first for this season- a forty minute mini vacation along the trail in our area. Thinking pleasant thoughts while cycling cleared my mind and energized my spirit.
In the Old Testament such care was given to each part of the tabernacle, where God met His people. Although God no longer dwells in the Old building, I've learned the value of looking after my temple, His new dwelling place.
1 Corinthians 6:19 "Or didn't you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit?" The Message
As women we often feel selfish when we spend time on our own recreation and hobbies.
That's not a Scriptural teaching for Corinthians goes on to say that we are bought with a price, God owns all of us. Let's look after His possession.
What are you doing this spring that will keep you healthy physically, spiritually and mentally? I'd love to hear from you.
Suggestion: Dividing your day into three parts- morning, afternoon and evening is one way to know how you are doing looking after yourself.
You need one of those parts each day for rest and recreation. For instance, if you work at night, you'll need either morning or afternoon for rest and recreation.
Sometimes our schedules have two or three days where all three parts are booked up. In that event, we need a whole day or as many parts as we've missed.
As well, each day I like to ask myself what I've done in each category- body, mind and spirit.
Let's share some ideas.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Live like it's real, because it is!
Were you in Waterloo this past weekend??
We had an incredible weekend with speaker Debbie Alsdorf, worship leaders Colleen and Grace, and singer Deborah Klassen. Breakout speakers addressed key issues facing women today - like how to parent adult children, deal with anger in a God-honoring way, marital struggles and divorce, happiness, thriving through change, and going deeper in prayer.
It was one of those weekends where you see God's hand on all of the little details, tying together the thoughts and scripture shared on stage in ways that no one could have planned but Him. :)
Going back to 'real life' after a transforming weekend away can sometimes hit us like a brick wall - we feel as though we've gone through a heart makeover, though our life situations often haven't changed a bit. "We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose." (Romans 8:28)
And let's remember the words of keynote speaker, Debbie Alsdorf who exhorted us all in our faith to "Live like it's real, because it is!"
Transformed,
Michelle
We had an incredible weekend with speaker Debbie Alsdorf, worship leaders Colleen and Grace, and singer Deborah Klassen. Breakout speakers addressed key issues facing women today - like how to parent adult children, deal with anger in a God-honoring way, marital struggles and divorce, happiness, thriving through change, and going deeper in prayer.
It was one of those weekends where you see God's hand on all of the little details, tying together the thoughts and scripture shared on stage in ways that no one could have planned but Him. :)
Going back to 'real life' after a transforming weekend away can sometimes hit us like a brick wall - we feel as though we've gone through a heart makeover, though our life situations often haven't changed a bit. "We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose." (Romans 8:28)
And let's remember the words of keynote speaker, Debbie Alsdorf who exhorted us all in our faith to "Live like it's real, because it is!"
Transformed,
Michelle
Monday, April 20, 2009
Women's Lives Changed
It's here! The week of our Brandon and Waterloo conferences! It has been an incredible spring season, seeing God at work in lives of women across the country.
Margaret and I had the opportunity to travel to Grande Prairie, Alberta for our 10th Annual Women Alive conference in that city. Hearing women share their stories of how the past 10 years of conferences have impacted their relationship with God and how they have grown in their faith was a tremendous encouragement. We made new friends with women right from Grande Prairie, and many who had traveled through the snow -- up to seven hours! And we continue to lift up in prayer the families of several youth who lost their lives in an unrelated car accident not too far from Grande Prairie the same weekend as the conference.
The following weekend we were back in Brantford, Ontario (the home of our National Office) for our "Just the Word" conference with Precept Minstries. A woman there attended Margaret's sessions on Nehemiah and accepted Jesus Christ into her life just days later as a result!
This past weekend, Women Alive was at Missionfest Toronto. Thanks to everyone who came by the booth to say hello and share how God has used Women Alive to touch your life. Many of you shared that our annual Waterloo conference is the highlight of your year and a much-needed spiritual refreshment!
We're looking forward to this week ahead, with both Waterloo and Brandon conferences. And we're excited for all that God has in store - far more than we could ever ask or imagine!
Won't you join with us in prayer? That women attending these next two conferences will be impacted by the Truth of God's Word, the Hope of Jesus, and Joy of living for Him!
With love,
Michelle
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
A Cheerful Heart is Good Medicine
“A happy heart makes the face cheerful ...and a cheerful heart is good medicine” (Prov. 15:13; 17:22).
What is so important about fun and relaxation that I would write about it three times? In the first two blogs, I shared experiences that were both fun for me and and relaxing at the same time. Both stories involved people, talking, laughing, sharing dinner and telling stories. Did you ever notice how much more fun you can have when there are others around? Being alone is not fun - you need someone to share it with.
Scientific studies have proven that “hanging out with friends for fun and relaxation actually counters stress that women experience on a daily basis.” Dr. Laura C. Klein, of Penn State University, says that engaging in friendships and relaxation reduces stress and produces a calming effect in one’s life. This fact has significant implications for our health. Dr. Klein and associate, Dr. Shelly Taylor found in their research that social ties, friendships and relationships “reduce the risk of disease by lowering blood pressure, heart rate and cholesterol.”
If having fun and relaxing with others is so good for us, why don’t we do it more? What is the stumbling block? Most of us are so busy, we think we don’t have time and we put our friends on the back burner, promising them and ourselves, “We’ll try for next week.” If only we could remember the source of strength our friendships provide, we would not be so quick to put them on hold. Is there a friend you need to call today and set up an uninterrupted time just to be together, to talk and share as friends do? It will be a healing experience.
I’d love to hear your thoughts about fun and relaxation. Why not take a moment to share some of your experiences with us.
Eileen
Monday, March 23, 2009
Seize the Moment!
Life is busy for everyone. It seems like there is never enough time to do everything we need to do. Who has time to even think about fun and relaxation? One of my friends said to me recently, “I never take time to relax and have fun. I’m too busy.”
I started thinking about that. I have a full schedule as well and don`t plan for fun as often as I should, but somehow it seems to happen for me. Just a week or so ago, my 19 year-old grandson had a birthday and I was able to host the party. You can imagine ten young people around the table and everyone laughing and talking. It was wonderful - each one telling stories on the others. For about two hours I enjoyed the most wonderful entertainment. It was both fun and relaxing. I seized the moment.
Early last Sunday morning a friend I don`t see very often, called and asked if I could have lunch with her after church. It was a spontaneous invitation and I responded in the same way. She had made a scrumptious dinner and as we sat at her little table, beautifully set, we had lots of fun and laughter, as well as some serious conversation. After dinner, we relaxed in the living room and talked some more. Driving home, I realized how blessed I was. Those two hours, spontaneously ordered, were both fun and relaxing. We had seized the moment.
Eugene Peterson tells us we need to “pay attention to the ordinary,” and to realize that “God is in the everyday.” I agree. Sometimes we let the days slip by without watching for the special moments God may have planned for us - and we miss them. We keep waiting for that large block of time when we can take a big holiday when we think we will have lots of fun and relaxation. We need to keep our eyes open and watch for God’s everyday surprises - and seize those moments.
Have fun!
Till next time,
Eileen
Monday, March 16, 2009
Fun and Relaxation: Let Me Surprise You!
A few weeks ago I hosted a dinner in my home. There were five of us. When I invited the guests (one was unable to come), they all asked who was coming. “Let me surprise you,” I told them. Each one of these women was a leader and none of them knew each other. One by one as they arrived, I could see their pleasure as they discovered new friends. We visited in the living room for a while before dinner and I could not believe what happened. As they began to talk and get acquainted with each other, it was like a spark had been lit. Joy and laughter exploded into the room. No one was a stranger anymore. We were having so much fun I hated to interrupt to gather them to the dinner table.
My intention in having this dinner party was to bring together young women in leadership for mutual edification, encouragement and connecting. Well, it certainly happened. The joy continued throughout the whole meal, but now it was on a different level. They began to ask each other about their lives and ministries, and they listened intently as each one shared her story. The respect and genuine interest on each face was an encouragement to the story-teller and I could see that she was being empowered just from being listened to, and the listeners were being edified by the words she was speaking. My heart was bursting with joy as I watched.
The evening flew by as these women shared experiences that face women in leadership, each one encouraging and building up the others by the reminders of God’s faithfulness through every situation. It truly was an evening of fun and relaxation. I lived on the crest of the joyful atmosphere for several days after.
Tell me about a special time of fun and relaxation you have experienced recently. I’d love to hear about it.
Eileen
My intention in having this dinner party was to bring together young women in leadership for mutual edification, encouragement and connecting. Well, it certainly happened. The joy continued throughout the whole meal, but now it was on a different level. They began to ask each other about their lives and ministries, and they listened intently as each one shared her story. The respect and genuine interest on each face was an encouragement to the story-teller and I could see that she was being empowered just from being listened to, and the listeners were being edified by the words she was speaking. My heart was bursting with joy as I watched.
The evening flew by as these women shared experiences that face women in leadership, each one encouraging and building up the others by the reminders of God’s faithfulness through every situation. It truly was an evening of fun and relaxation. I lived on the crest of the joyful atmosphere for several days after.
Tell me about a special time of fun and relaxation you have experienced recently. I’d love to hear about it.
Eileen
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
Waterloo Early Bird
Hi ladies!
Be sure to register this week for our Women Alive Waterloo Annual Conference to take advantage of our early bird offer and SAVE!
Head over to www.womenalive.org/events/waterloo09 for more details and to register.
Or call 1-800-387-4753.
~ Michelle
Be sure to register this week for our Women Alive Waterloo Annual Conference to take advantage of our early bird offer and SAVE!
Head over to www.womenalive.org/events/waterloo09 for more details and to register.
Or call 1-800-387-4753.
~ Michelle
Monday, February 23, 2009
Waiting & Expectations
It's so easy to be disappointed in our mates when they don't understand us, leave their socks on the floor, the toilet seat up or just because they don't know what we are thinking. (What are we thinking?)God's design is for us to be Holy, not just happy. Knowing that God has given me the right mate to accomplish His purposes in my life helps me when conflict arises. I endeavour to ask the question, "What does God want me to learn in this situation?" Oftentimes it's simple: He wants to reinforce the fact that men and women are different and that is good. Exploring those differences helps us understand where 'our significant other' is coming from.
Case in point: One area of contention in our home has been that of 'waiting'. Just yesterday, I talked to my husband Bob, who said he was ready for me to pick him up from work. (We work with one vehicle until motorcycle weather.) When I arrived at his workplace five minutes later, he had gone on another short run. I had to wait. I convinced myself, in only seconds, that I didn't mind the wait, but what I did mind was the fact that he always says that he has to wait for me, and rarely, if ever, do I have to wait for him. I can't tell you how many years this has frustrated me (what I really mean is: it makes me MAD).
Since I was in the middle of this blog (Thanks God, for your clear sense of humour), I asked the Lord to show me what I needed to learn. After all, after forty years together, I should have it all together.
"AHA"- a light went on and God delivered on His promise to give wisdom when I ask. (James 1:5) The revelation was that each of us was coming from a "different frame of reference." For me, waiting is when a time has been set ("I'm ready NOW” or “Supper is at 5:30 and if you're not here, I'm waiting”)
For Bob, if we are going somewhere and he's ready first, he's waiting for me. Or at church, where I love to visit, if I'm not finished talking (!!!), he again is waiting. Of course, I began to see why he felt like he spends so much time waiting for me.
Since I've also learned (reluctantly) that he is not a mind reader, I confronted him this morning about my revelation. It opened up a great discussion and both of us could see that our idea of waiting was totally different. At the end of our friendly conversation, we both agreed that we need to make clarity a priority.
God's purpose is for me to discover that my mate cannot meet all my needs and I shouldn't expect him to. What I can expect, though, is that God, through Christ, can meet all my needs and be my eternal bridegroom. As I look to God for fulfillment, I can then treat my mate the way God intended: with love and respect. Perhaps then, a clearer picture of God's love for His bride will emerge from my marriage.
Let's talk about this area of our significant other. I'm sure together, we could strengthen one another and make the journey lighter. I want to hear from you.
Monday, February 16, 2009
Princesses and Knights in Shining Armour
As I pondered how to begin this topic of significant other, I had a startling thought: "My marriage may be the only picture some people see, to help them understand God's love for His bride." If that is true, what are those watching learning about God as they look in on my relationship with my husband? Is it the truth about God's love? I sure want to paint a beautiful rosy portrait, but honestly, I fall short in this area of closest human relationships. (No surprise there!)
But who is it that needs to change to make this happen? Any attempt to change my mate has shown me that it is like "trying to catch a squirrel by chasing it." Since that's a futile effort, I'll work on what I can control, changing myself.
The first change needs to be from my natural tendency of selfishness to God's call to selflessness. Now that's not natural. But then again, my life in Christ is not a call to the natural but the supernatural. What I can't do in my strength, He can, as I give Him my weakness.
Sheila Gregoire writes in ChristianWeek (Feb 1,2009) "He (God) made us women to yearn to be princesses who need to be pursued, but He also gave our husbands the need to feel like knights in shining armour!"
Since I tend to emphasize the 'pursuing of the princess' from that quote, I'd like a change here. During this month as we celebrate love, I purposefully want to choose God's plan to forget myself (that doesn't mean neglect) and think of all the ways I could bless my mate.
Ways to make your mate feel like a Knight
Find out about your husbands' hobby or special interest.
I never ever wanted to ride a motorcycle but when Bob retired, he purchased one. Concerned that I'd be bored just riding behind him, but knowing I needed to give it a try, I put on a used helmet and jacket and off we went. It didn't take long for me to discover what I'd never have known if I'd gone by my own preconceived idea: I really enjoy motorcycling. Now we have a wonderful group of brand new supportive friends who all love the sport. On a recent plane flight, I read an article from one of his many cycling magazines and really found it interesting. (Reading one of those magazines has taken about ten years...oops! Need some work here.)
What does your mate enjoy in his free time? How can you connect?
Watch a favourite movie with him. (His choice and no complaints!)
Washroom breaks only!
Washroom breaks only!
Bake him a favourite cake or pie from scratch and let him have a piece whenever he wants it. How often have I made Bob a treat and then given the leftovers to someone else. Shame on me!What can you whip up? It's not that difficult.
Listen to what he is saying (undivided attention) endeavouring to hear his heart, not just the words he says. Have you ever misjudged your mate because of poor listening?
Forgive again and again
Ruth Bell Graham said" A good marriage is made up of two good forgivers."
Ruth Bell Graham said" A good marriage is made up of two good forgivers."
What do you think of that comment?
I'd love to hear your responses to how you make your husband feel like a knight!
Ruth
Thursday, February 12, 2009
ie-Zine & Girls Groups
NEW THIS WEEK...This week, I'm excited to announce the launch of our ie-zine, the monthly ie girl webzine for girls 12 - 20 with new articles every day leading up to Valentine's Day! We've got everything from the ie girl Valentine's Day Party Planner, to "Never Been Kissed". Plus, ie girl goes to the movies with a fantastic review of the currently-in-theatres, Bride Wars with discussion questions for girls and their friends, plus an inspiring article about God's love letters.
If there's a teen girl in your life (or for some fun revisiting your youth!), be sure to check it out at http://www.iegirl.ca/
AND, COMING SPRING 2009...
Our ie girl groups are being launched in communities across Canada. This is a unique ministry not only to girls 12 - 20, but their moms, mentors, friends, and youth leaders are well. You can check out more details on our 'ie girl groups' page.
If you would like to start a group in your area, or find out if one already exists, let me know! ie girl group leader training begins March 2009. For more details, send me an email at info@womenalive.org or feel free to give me a call at 1-800-387-4753.
Nurturing the Next Generation Together,
Michelle
ie girl Director
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Facebook Friendships
Recently I signed up on Facebook, the website designed to help connect with friends, celebrate friendship and share every day life. Initially I was reluctant to join this new electronic phenomenon, primarily because of time constraints. With some coaching from my daughter, an avid Facebook fan, I took the plunge.
I have now connected with a large number of former College friends, most of my extended family, friends from former congregations and workplaces, and friends and acquaintances in my current world. Through this vehicle, I have created a new community - one that is formed thanks to technology.
The soul hungers for friendship. It’s a basic human need, like water, food and rest. When we are part of a community, we are given all the essentials needed for growth and development. Whether we understand it or not, our friendships shape us -- our character and our attitudes towards others, circumstances and life. Friends help us live life in-the-now and support us to move into the future with hope, faith, sound advice and a good dose of optimism.
The famed Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “I didn’t find my friends…God gave them to me.“ God works through people. He arranges them to come into our lives at various points, times and seasons.
Some friendships are seasonal. Others don’t stay at the same depth level. Some become disconnected from regular connection but they truly care. Then there are those who commit to the long haul and leave an indelible mark on our lives. They are priceless and irreplaceable. All of our friendships are necessary for growth. Friends play a vital part in our lives no matter of the duration, frequency of communication or the level of depth we achieve together. We become the people we are because of our friendships.
Do some friendships go array? Are there times of betrayal? Is there pain in friendship gone wrong? Absolutely! These too are part of our learning and growing even though painful!
As I look through all my current friends on Facebook, I recall situations, moments and times that are marked in my memory as special, meaningful, and yes, life-changing. But Facebook cannot capture the depth of heartfelt love and support that one feels in recalling those moments. Facebook cannot record the prayer that is lifted when a picture is viewed or some information shared. Facebook connects but cannot express the support and encouragement that goes beyond mere words to a heart and spirit language that conveys its own message.
Friendship is a treasured gift from the past, an enriching support in the present and a lasting legacy for the future. Value friendship - it is the essence of life!
Margaret Gibb
I have now connected with a large number of former College friends, most of my extended family, friends from former congregations and workplaces, and friends and acquaintances in my current world. Through this vehicle, I have created a new community - one that is formed thanks to technology.
The soul hungers for friendship. It’s a basic human need, like water, food and rest. When we are part of a community, we are given all the essentials needed for growth and development. Whether we understand it or not, our friendships shape us -- our character and our attitudes towards others, circumstances and life. Friends help us live life in-the-now and support us to move into the future with hope, faith, sound advice and a good dose of optimism.
The famed Ralph Waldo Emerson once said: “I didn’t find my friends…God gave them to me.“ God works through people. He arranges them to come into our lives at various points, times and seasons.
Some friendships are seasonal. Others don’t stay at the same depth level. Some become disconnected from regular connection but they truly care. Then there are those who commit to the long haul and leave an indelible mark on our lives. They are priceless and irreplaceable. All of our friendships are necessary for growth. Friends play a vital part in our lives no matter of the duration, frequency of communication or the level of depth we achieve together. We become the people we are because of our friendships.
Do some friendships go array? Are there times of betrayal? Is there pain in friendship gone wrong? Absolutely! These too are part of our learning and growing even though painful!
As I look through all my current friends on Facebook, I recall situations, moments and times that are marked in my memory as special, meaningful, and yes, life-changing. But Facebook cannot capture the depth of heartfelt love and support that one feels in recalling those moments. Facebook cannot record the prayer that is lifted when a picture is viewed or some information shared. Facebook connects but cannot express the support and encouragement that goes beyond mere words to a heart and spirit language that conveys its own message.
Friendship is a treasured gift from the past, an enriching support in the present and a lasting legacy for the future. Value friendship - it is the essence of life!
Margaret Gibb
Thursday, January 15, 2009
Share the Wealth of Yourself
I’m not really big on New Year’s resolutions. They have a bad reputation for having a high rate of failure (you know what I’m talking about). But, I do find that the annual “switching of the calendar” does make me pause and think about both the year behind and the year ahead – and I must confess that I am always thankful for any opportunity for a fresh start.
This year, as I mentally stood in the space between yesterday and tomorrow, I asked myself, “What do I want more of in 2009?” Hmmmm….a big question. But as I reflected on the busyness of the fall and what I felt was lacking during that time, it didn’t take long for the answer to rise to the surface: more quality time with the important people in my life. More conversations over a great cup of java. More dancing around the kitchen with my 3 amazing kids. More initiating get-togethers with couples we don’t see as often as I would like. More dates with my husband of 20 years. More impromptu adventures with crazy friends. More quiet time learning to let God have a say in the conversation. More opportunities to let people know that they bring immeasurable joy to my life.
“Infinitely more important than sharing one's material wealth is sharing the wealth of ourselves—our time and energy, our passion and commitment, and, above all, our love.”—William E. Simon (1927-2000); businessman, former United States Secretary of Treasury.
I welcome your accountability this year as I resolve to “share the wealth of myself” with the people in my life. And I’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas!
~ Wendy
This year, as I mentally stood in the space between yesterday and tomorrow, I asked myself, “What do I want more of in 2009?” Hmmmm….a big question. But as I reflected on the busyness of the fall and what I felt was lacking during that time, it didn’t take long for the answer to rise to the surface: more quality time with the important people in my life. More conversations over a great cup of java. More dancing around the kitchen with my 3 amazing kids. More initiating get-togethers with couples we don’t see as often as I would like. More dates with my husband of 20 years. More impromptu adventures with crazy friends. More quiet time learning to let God have a say in the conversation. More opportunities to let people know that they bring immeasurable joy to my life.
“Infinitely more important than sharing one's material wealth is sharing the wealth of ourselves—our time and energy, our passion and commitment, and, above all, our love.”—William E. Simon (1927-2000); businessman, former United States Secretary of Treasury.
I welcome your accountability this year as I resolve to “share the wealth of myself” with the people in my life. And I’d love to hear your thoughts and ideas!
~ Wendy
Wednesday, January 7, 2009
Relationships: The Risk & The Reward
“All the best things in life come packaged in a ribbon of risk. You untie the gift, you assume the risk, and equally the joy. Parenthood is like that; marriage is like that; friendship is like that. In order to experience life in the full sense, you expose yourself to a bottomless pit of vulnerability. That is the essence of true love.” (Kristin Armstrong)
Those who know me well know that I love a good quote. I’m amazed how a few simple words on a page can challenge me, (sometimes anger me), but often inspire me. I like to “collect” quotes that evoke emotion or simply make me stop and think. The quote above is one of those. It speaks to the two sides of relationships – the cost/risk and the reward. What is more painful or consuming than conflict, strain or betrayal in a relationship? And yet, what is more fulfilling than sharing life’s journey with another? I may not have many possessions, and according to society’s standards, I’m far from wealthy. But I AM rich with relationships – the people in my life are priceless gifts to me…and I don’t regret untying the ribbon.
What relationships are especially rewarding in your life?
What risks have you taken and what have you learned?
What does God teach us about relationships? What example does He set?
I’d love to hear from you!
Wendy
Those who know me well know that I love a good quote. I’m amazed how a few simple words on a page can challenge me, (sometimes anger me), but often inspire me. I like to “collect” quotes that evoke emotion or simply make me stop and think. The quote above is one of those. It speaks to the two sides of relationships – the cost/risk and the reward. What is more painful or consuming than conflict, strain or betrayal in a relationship? And yet, what is more fulfilling than sharing life’s journey with another? I may not have many possessions, and according to society’s standards, I’m far from wealthy. But I AM rich with relationships – the people in my life are priceless gifts to me…and I don’t regret untying the ribbon.
What relationships are especially rewarding in your life?
What risks have you taken and what have you learned?
What does God teach us about relationships? What example does He set?
I’d love to hear from you!
Wendy
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